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Do you have the Case of the DIYs? Guest Blog by A Cake to Remember

I could spend all day telling you why I heart Kara Buntin with A Cake to Remember. Besides the fact that she personally made all of my geeky wedding dreams come true, Kara is a no nonsense wedding pro who was always one of the top of my list when working with brides.

Kara and I agree on much- our mutual love of LOST, the pursuit for cakes that make you go hmmmm.. but what may don’t know is that Kara and I are polar opposites when it comes to some topics. She doesn’t have a logo. I want her to have one. She doesn’t like bridal shows. I can’t make imagine life without them. What makes “us” work is that despite our opinions, we’re wildly open minded and continue to respect each others’ view, even when we don’t agree 100%. It may also have to do with our not so hidden snarky sides that cause us to gravitate toward one another any time we find ourselves in the same room.

Today, Kara joins us for a topic that’s near and dear to me- hiring professionals. This time, instead of pointing fingers at the bride, we’re pointing the finger at.. well, you. 🙂

Without further adieu, here’s Kara–

I have a confession to make. A horrible, horrible confession. I was a DIY bride.

I did my own flowers, addressed my own invitations (I bought a book on calligraphy to learn how to do it), made my own dessert buffet, sewed the dress for my maid of honor when we couldn’t find anything she liked, and to top it off, I wore my mother’s wedding gown that I altered myself. Oh, and I also added hand beading to it myself.

Yes, I know, but to be fair, it was way before I got into the wedding cake business, and I had experience in costume design, sewing, and studio art. If I’d had the network of professionals that I have now I probably would have spread the jobs out a bit more instead of taking so much on myself. But we were on a budget, and I’m a handy/artsy-craftsy person, so I did have the experience to do all of those jobs

The reason behind DIY is basically budget, but that’s a topic for another day. What I wanted to point out was that even though I did a lot of things on my own, there were some things that I didn’t do. Those included the music (my husband’s R&B bandmates brought their instruments and played in a kind of round-robin…Best wedding band EVER). I also didn’t do the catering, supply the bar, provide the reception entertainment (no choreographed dances for me) or make my own invitations (even though I addressed them). Even though I did a lot of things, I know that there are areas where I don’t know how to do certain jobs, and those are what I hired other people to do.

My DIY tendencies have continued into my business life, because I tend to say “I can do that, I’m not paying for that.” There are things, however, that I can’t do myself. Everyone has things that they aren’t qualified to do, or just have no interest in doing. Those are the tasks that you should hire another professional to do for you.

I recently wrote a blog entry about hiring the right person for the job, and paying for their experience. I think that a lot of wedding business owners try to do it all, and we sometimes either fall short, or just get burned out by the demands that we put on ourselves. If we tell brides that they should hire professionals to take care of the details on their wedding day, why do we not take advantage of the availability of experienced professionals who we can hire to help us?

I’m as guilty of the “I can do it all” mentality as anyone, but I (sometimes) know when I need to loosen the reins a little. We tell brides that there’s a freedom in handing the responsibilities over to trained professionals. Why not take a look at your business and see if there’s a place that you could take pressure off of yourself by turning something over to another professional? I’ll try to do the same thing…Maybe I can find someone who’s willing to come over and clean my kitchen on baking days for me.

Kara Buntin owns A Cake To Remember LLC, custom wedding cakes in Richmond VA

Meghan Ely is the owner of wedding marketing and wedding pr firm OFD Consulting. She is the exclusive wedding pr columnist to wedding marketing journal WedLock magazine and is a highly sought after speaker in the wedding industry. She loves ruffle table runners and Royal Wedding Tchotchkes. To learn how OFD Consulting can assist you with your wedding marketing and wedding pr, please contact us today.